There are two types of wishes in English: (1) real; and (2) imaginary.
Real wishes are for things that can actually happen. Imaginary wishes are for things that cannot come true in real life or are not likely to come true.
When we express a real wish, we use the indicative mood of the verb. When we express an imaginary wish, we use the strong subjunctive mood of the verb.
The Indicative Mood is the form of the verb that we use when we are talking about things that happened or are happening or will happen in real life. Verbs in the indicative mood have tense (past, present, and future) and they also have a different third-person singular form.
The Strong Subjunctive Mood looks like the simple past tense, but it is not the simple past tense. The subjunctive mood has no tense because it is the imaginary form of the verb, and it indicates that an action or state of being is imaginary, imagined, hypothetical, not actually true, and only in someone’s mind. Since the action or state of being is only in the mind and not in the real world of time and space, it cannot have any tense (past, present, or future). So, the subjunctive mood is timeless. Also, it does not have a different third-person singular form. For the verb “to be” the strong subjunctive form is “were“:
- I were
- You were
- He/she it were
- We were
- They were
Notice that for “he/she/it” we use “were” in the strong subjunctive mood, not “was” as we do in the indicative mood. This is what makes the strong subjunctive mood different from the simple past tense.
Real Wishes
We can express real wishes only for the future—either the immediate future (a few seconds or minutes from now) or the more distant future (more than a few minutes from now). We cannot express real wishes for the present or the past. When we wish for something real, it can come true only after we have expressed the wish. So, all real wishes are for the future.
Real Wishes Expressed Using a Noun Clause:
We express real wishes in the form of a noun clause using the simple present tense, even though the action will happen in the future if the wish comes true. The simple present tense is not about the present—it is a timeless tense that can apply to all three time periods—past, present, and future. The basic sentence structure is:
Here are some examples of real wishes expressed in a noun clause:
- I wish that you succeed in everything that you do.
- We wish that the New Year brings you continued happiness and fulfillment.
- She wishes that her children have a better life than she did.
Real Wishes Expressed Using an Infinitive Phrase or Clause:
We also express real wishes using an infinitive phrase or an infinitive clause. In this form, the action or state of being that we wish for is expressed in the infinitive form, “to + VERB“. The two basic sentence structures are:
- X wishes to do Y. (→ infinitive phrase)
- X wishes Z to do Y (→ infinitive clause)
We use the infinitive phrase to express a wish for something that we want to do or be ourselves. We use the infinitive clause to express a wish for something that we want some other person to do or be.
Here are some examples of real wishes using an infinitive:
- I wish to leave right now. (→ infinitive phrase; a wish for oneself)
- I wish you to leave right now. (→ infinitive clause; a wish for another person)
- She wishes her parents to be given a message from her. (→ infinitive clause; a wish for another person)
- She wishes to see her children. (→ infinitive phrase; a wish for oneself)
Imaginary Wishes
There are several types of imaginary wishes, and because they are imaginary, they can relate to a past situation, a present situation, or a future situation (unlike real wishes, which are limited to a future situation only). Imaginary wishes are expressed only in noun clauses. We cannot use an infinitive to express an imaginary wish.
Expressing Regret (a Wish for a Past Situation):
When we express a wish for a past situation, it has to be imaginary or imagined, since the situation has already taken place and the action or state of being cannot be changed, and all we can do is imagine a different action or state of being for that situation. In other words, we regret what happened in the past and we wish that something else had happened.
We express regret using the strong subjunctive for a past situation. This form looks like the past perfect tense, but it is not the past perfect tense, because the action or state of being in the verb did not actually happen in real life in the past—it is the action or state of being that we wish had happened in the past, but did not happen.
Here are some examples:
- I wish that I had not eaten so much last night. (→ in real life, I ate too much; my action of not eating so much is an imagined or imaginary action)
- She wishes that she had studied harder for the exam. (→ in real life, she did not study hard enough)
- They wish that you had told them in advance that you were coming for a visit. (→ in real life, you did not tell them that you were coming)
Expressing a Wish for Something Impossible or Against Reality in the Present:
When we express a wish for something impossible in the present situation, or something that is the opposite of reality, we use the strong subjunctive form explained earlier. For the verb “to be“, this form is “were” and for other verbs, it looks like the simple past tense. For most modal verbs, the strong subjunctive form looks like the past form: “can → could“; “will → would“; “may → might“; and so on
Here are some examples:
- I wish that I were clever enough to go to college. (→ in real life, I am not clever enough to go to college)
- We wish that he were here to help us get out of this mess that we’re in. (→ in real life, he is not here with us)
- She wishes that her parents had enough money to send her to study abroad. (→ in real life, her parents do not have enough money to send her abroad)
- My brother wishes that he could play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz. (→ in real life, he cannot play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz)
- I wish that I could fly like a bird. (→ this is a wish for something impossible)
Expressing a Wish for Something That Is Unlikely to Happen in the Future:
When we express a wish for something to happen in the future, but we know (or we think) that it is not likely to happen, we use the subjunctive form of “will“, which is “would“. Here are some examples:
- I wish that you would leave me alone. (→ in real life, it is not likely that you will do this)
- They wish that she would just go away and never come back. (→ in real life, she will most probably not go away)
- We wish that it would stop raining. (→ in real life, it most probably will not stop raining in the immediate future)
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Expressing Wishes Relating to Ability, Possibility, and Permission
The modal verb “can” is used in the indicative mood to express: (1) ability; (2) possibility; and (3) permission. In English, we do not express real wishes using “can” in a noun clause, regardless of whether we are talking about ability, or possibility, or permission. We use either the infinitive construction described above, or we use the word “wish” as a noun and then express the wish itself in a clause using the weak subjunctive mood (this will be explained later).
Real Wishes Relating to Ability and Permission, Using an Infinitive Phrase or Clause:
Logically, we cannot have a real wish for a possibility. We can wish only for an ability or for permission. To express a wish for an ability, we use “to be able (to do something)”. To express a wish for permission, we use “to be allowed (to do something)”. Here are some examples:
- I wish to be able to play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz. (→ a wish for an ability for oneself)
- I wish my son to be able to play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz. (→ a wish for an ability for someone else)
- These two students wish to be allowed to leave school early today. (→ a wish for permission for oneself)
- Those parents over there wish their children to be allowed to leave school early today. (→ a wish for permission for someone else)
Real Wishes Relating to Ability and Permission, Using the Weak Subjunctive
The Weak Subjunctive is another form of the subjunctive mood. It looks like the bare infinitive—also called “the base form of the verb” or “infinitive without ‘to’“. (This is not the place to explain the use of the weak subjunctive form in detail. It will be explained only in connection with its use in expressing wishes.)
We can express the wish either in a noun clause or a relative clause, but we must use the word “wish” as a noun, not as a verb. Here are some examples:
- My wish is that I be able to play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz. (→ noun clause, wishing for an ability)
- I don’t think that my wish that I be able to play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz will ever come true, (→ relative clause, wishing for an ability)
- The wish of these two students is that they be allowed to leave school early today. (→ noun clause, wishing for permission for oneself)
- The wish of these two students that they be allowed to leave school early today was not granted. (→ relative clause, wishing for permission for oneself)
- The wish of those parents over there is that their children be allowed to leave school early today. (→ noun clause, wishing for permission for someone else)
- The wish of those parents over there that their children be allowed to leave school early today was granted. (→ relative clause, wishing for permission for someone else)
Imaginary Wishes Relating to Ability, Possibility, and Permission:
We express imaginary wishes relating to ability, possibility, and permission, using the noun clause construction described at the beginning, with the modal verb “could” (the general strong subjunctive) or “could have” (the strong subjunctive for a past situation). Here are some examples:
- I wish that I could have helped you when you were in trouble last month, but I was having difficulty myself at the time.
- I wish that I could stay longer, but I have a doctor’s appointment in 20 minutes, and I don’t want to be late for it.
- They wish that they could have attended the wedding, but they could not find a flight that would get them there in time.
If we need to emphasise ability, possibility, or permission specifically, we use the following forms:
- ability: “to have the ability (to do something)”
- possibility: “to have the possibility (of doing something)” or “it be possible (to do something)”
- permission: “to have permission (to do something)”
Here are some examples:
- I wish that I had the ability to play tennis like Carlos Alcaraz.
- We wish that we had had the possibility of attending the wedding, but we could not find a flight that would get us there in time.
- We wish that it had been possible for us to attend the wedding, but we could not find a flight that would get us there in time.
- The two students wish that they had permission to leave school early today, but the school principal rejected their request.
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There is much more than can be said about expressing wishes in English. This is just a general introduction to the topic.